Why I refuse to go to my homecoming dance.

Recently, I heard a song on the radio called “Marvin Gaye” by Charlie Puth and Meghan Trainor. The song is pretty catchy and is quite popular among teenagers.

Before I ever like a song, I always look up the music video to discover its actual meaning. That’s one way that I discovered Sam Smith’s song, “Stay with me,” was about his homosexual relationships, before anyone else at my school.

When I looked up the music video to Marvin Gaye, the setting appeared to be a high school homecoming dance or prom, that was pretty boring and none of the students were dancing. When Puth and Trainor began singing the lyrics, “Let’s Marvin Gaye and get it on,” the video quickly transitioned to students making-out, grinding on each other and participating in sexually explicit dance moves. At the end of the video, students left the dance, drove away, and eventually had sexual intercourse.

While the end of the dance as portrayed in this video might exceed reality, the beginning of the dance (in the video) was a near perfect portrayal of what actually occurs at such dances.

Homecoming dances have become gatherings where students come together to participate in provocative behavior, and play with sexual temptation. Every year, students have “grinded” on each other, forming lines that stretch from one end of the gym to the other, and they have participated in various types of sexual “dance moves.”

While it would be easy to say that this is the fault of administrators and chaperones, I can honestly say that it is not really their faults.  During my freshman year, everyone who “grinded” was forced to leave.  The flock of students then went out onto the school parking-lot, played loud music, and began doing it again. Administrators had to then go outside and tell them to leave. They then drove to the parking-lot of a near-by shopping plaza, that had closed for the night, and did the same thing. Law enforcement was called and once again the students had to leave.

They then dispersed and went to homecoming parties where they drank and fornicated.

That was the only homecoming dance that I had ever been to in my life. After that, I never wanted to go back. I had called by parents 20 minutes into it, but unfortunately, I was unable to reach them. So I could hear my phone, I went to the bathroom to get away from the loud music. That was a very bad idea, but as a freshman, you don’t know any better. There was a couple in there, doing the obvious. I walked out of the building and it took me 45 minutes, but eventually I was able to get a hold of them and get the heck out of there.

While administrators and teachers can verbally discourage students from participating in this type of behavior, in reality, it is not effective. Disk Jockeys at these events play modern music, which consists of songs about fornication. What do you expect students to do?

For example, if you play the song I previously mentioned, “Let’s Marvin Gaye and get it on,” more than likely they are going to “get it on,” as the people did in the music video.

At one point in time, teenagers were inexperienced, but they were polite, hard workers who sought the American Dream. Now, most have embraced laziness, do not focus on their future, and rebel against their parents and standards of morality.

Homecoming and other school-sponsored dances have become places full of temptation, which the Bible says to stay away from.

If we read Genesis 39:12, it says that when Joseph was with Potiphar’s wife, she grabbed him by his cloak and told him to sleep with her. Joseph literally ran away.

Matthew 6:13, “And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.”  While this is part of the Lord’s prayer, asking God to keep us out of circumstances where we might be tempted, it also means that we should not put ourselves into situations were we know that temptation exists.

Throughout the Bible it says that we are to flee from fornication, which includes sinful temptations. You do not play with the Devil, by inserting yourself into areas where sin is vibrant.

It is for that reason, I refuse to attend homecoming dances.